Has this ever happened to you? If you've been in the online dating world you've probably gone out on a date that started off great where both you and your date were "in to it" but as the date continued it started to go on for too long, lost its energy level and in turn you or your date lost interest. The problem is you probably stayed in one place, like a sit down dinner for example, for too long and it is only natural for the energy level to decrease over the evening. You are not alone and there are several ways you can make sure that that never happens on any of your dates ever again.
To make sure you are successful in your online dating life and a great way to make sure that this never happens to you is do some research and have three (3) places picked out before your date that are close and convenient to each other. The first venue should be well lit, serve drinks and give you both the opportunity to get to know each other. You should be able to sit face to face so you can get a feel for how each of you is feeling when you first meet. You should keep it light and funny and the main goal is to see if you both feel comfortable around each other.
Once you have both determined you want this date to continue make your way to your second venue. It should be a dynamic place to eat where you can sit side by side. This is crucial for online dating success. A tapas or sushi restaurant is perfect because the meals are served on little plates and you can share with each other. It is here you should start to ask interesting questions about the other person and pay them a genuine non-physical compliment based on the conversation and the answers to the questions. It is here that you should let them know that you are interested in them romantically and aren't ending up in the dreaded friend zone.
Once you have both agreed that this is something you both want, you'll make your way to your third venue. It is on this walk that you can see the difference in the interest and energy level as opposed to the stagnate one venue date. This is especially important when it comes to online dating because you really don't know each other yet. It is also on the way to venue number three that you should make a spontaneous kiss attempt as you are walking down the street. The third venue should be darker, have music and serve drinks. It is here you will both continue your conversation and explore your intimate desires for each other. If there is anywhere you and your date should be able to let your hair down and get a little physical it is in your 3rd venue.
Everyone has stagnate dates that they wish they could just get up and walk away from but if you follow the three venue technique to start light and get comfortable in your first venue, have a interesting conversation and side by side dynamic meal in your second venue, make a move on the way to the third venue where you can let your hair down and begin to express your intimate desires for each other than you will have a successful online dating career and have consistently better dates and relationships. Remember, the environment is just as important and says just as much as the other person on a first or second date.
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