Has this ever happened to you? If you've been in the online dating world you've probably gone out on a date that started off great where both you and your date were "in to it" but as the date continued it started to go on for too long, lost its energy level and in turn you or your date lost interest. The problem is you probably stayed in one place, like a sit down dinner for example, for too long and it is only natural for the energy level to decrease over the evening. You are not alone and there are several ways you can make sure that that never happens on any of your dates ever again.
To make sure you are successful in your online dating life and a great way to make sure that this never happens to you is do some research and have three (3) places picked out before your date that are close and convenient to each other. The first venue should be well lit, serve drinks and give you both the opportunity to get to know each other. You should be able to sit face to face so you can get a feel for how each of you is feeling when you first meet. You should keep it light and funny and the main goal is to see if you both feel comfortable around each other.
Once you have both determined you want this date to continue make your way to your second venue. It should be a dynamic place to eat where you can sit side by side. This is crucial for online dating success. A tapas or sushi restaurant is perfect because the meals are served on little plates and you can share with each other. It is here you should start to ask interesting questions about the other person and pay them a genuine non-physical compliment based on the conversation and the answers to the questions. It is here that you should let them know that you are interested in them romantically and aren't ending up in the dreaded friend zone.
Once you have both agreed that this is something you both want, you'll make your way to your third venue. It is on this walk that you can see the difference in the interest and energy level as opposed to the stagnate one venue date. This is especially important when it comes to online dating because you really don't know each other yet. It is also on the way to venue number three that you should make a spontaneous kiss attempt as you are walking down the street. The third venue should be darker, have music and serve drinks. It is here you will both continue your conversation and explore your intimate desires for each other. If there is anywhere you and your date should be able to let your hair down and get a little physical it is in your 3rd venue.
Everyone has stagnate dates that they wish they could just get up and walk away from but if you follow the three venue technique to start light and get comfortable in your first venue, have a interesting conversation and side by side dynamic meal in your second venue, make a move on the way to the third venue where you can let your hair down and begin to express your intimate desires for each other than you will have a successful online dating career and have consistently better dates and relationships. Remember, the environment is just as important and says just as much as the other person on a first or second date.
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Thursday, May 21, 2009
10 Dating MYTHS Men fall Victim To
MYTH #1 – YOU HAVE TO LIE TO GET WOMEN
The oldest trick in the book is you have to lie to girls to get action. Like Rodney Dangerfield said in the movie Back to School, “Why did you lie to me Jason? You don’t lie to me…you lie to girls!”. Although that may work in some small instances it is a recipe for disaster. Here’s why. Let’s say you meet a girl and you really like her. And let’s even say you’ve been to one of those three thousand dollar seduction courses and they teach you these canned lines called “heart melters” that are fictitious stories to get women to like you.
One example of the stories they tell you to tell to girls is you sold your toys when you were 7 years old to help pay the electric bill. Now, let’s say you tell that story to a woman and then 3 months later the women you are dating finds out that it isn’t true. You are now completely out of congruence with what she thought you were and you become something else. You can NEVER regain the trust that you had. You never really built in the first place because you based part of your personality and your past on a lie. It is almost impossible to recover from. The number one deal breaker in relationships for 67% of women polled is lying. It ranked higher than cheating!
So what then? Tell the truth? Most guys are intimidated or feel inadequate when it comes to their lives and careers so they either get really shy about it, and don’t tell anyone, or they just plain lie about it. I have a new suggestion that is GUARANTEED to get women attracted to you. It is a framing technique called grounding. Grounding is a technique that allows any question to be answered TRUTHFULLY with 3 main components.
Grounding components are:
1. Wanted (something/to) since being a child
2. I have overcome obstacles to attain
3. Have achieved the goal OR are in process of achieving the goal.
We get asked the question “what do you do for a living” all the time. Most of us just blurt out the answer like “I’m a convenient store clerk” or lie about it in an attempt to get women like “I’m a famous plastic surgeon” or something ridiculous like that. If we ground it we don’t have to lie and the answer, no matter what you do for a living will sound FANTASTIC!
Let’s say you are an architect and someone asks you, “What do you do for a living?”
The common response is, “I’m an architect.”
But if you apply the grounding technique you get something that looks more like this:
“Even since I was a small child I had always loved to draw and be creative so I decided to grow my talents and become an architect. It has been challenging and exciting, especially with some of the changes that have been created to improve the environment and even though I work for a successful company my eventual goal is to start my own firm…”
See the glaring difference. Let’s even take the guy above that works in a convenient store. Let’s see if we can make him look like a success.
“Ever since I was a small child I wanted to be an independent business owner so I am working directly under a self employed business owner by running one of his franchise units. It’s challenging because you have to have a lot of multi tasking and customer services skills but I really enjoy it and my eventual goal is to own my own company.”
Not bad for right of the top of my head. Do you see the power of grounding? Can you imagine if we really gave it some thought? If you need to lie to get girls that what kind of a MAN are you? Really?
The real beauty of the grounding technique is it gives women a strong emotional reaction and creates an emotional attachment to YOUR answers. It is very powerful.
Solution to Myth #1 – Don’t Lie. Just get really, really good at telling the truth using framing and grounding techniques.
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MYTH #2 – YOU HAVE TO BE RICH TO GET WOMEN
I truly believe this is the biggest myth that exists in dating and I can tell you first hand that the best lady killer I know are either regular guys with regular jobs or are broke. The real issue here is inadequacy. Most me n fall victim to the notion that if they are not rich they wont adequately be able to do the things that women want. They also then believe they don’t have what it takes to satisfy them emotionally or physically. This is when you really start to hear the excuses men come up with. It’s society’s fault, it’s the economy’s fault, it’s MTV’s fault but it’s NEVER the man in the mirror’s fault.
Oddly enough, the things that women WANT THE MOST don’t cost a thing! Being chivalrous, being confident, having a sense of humor, being a leader of providing direction, making them FEEL that they are a priority, being passionate and being a protector don’t cost a dime! These are the top 7 things women wanted when polled.
There are single women everywhere just looking for a regular guy with regular wants and needs and a regular job. They don’t necessarily want all that glamour and glitz but they certainly aren’t going to just start lining up for you. You have to work at it. You have to want to do it and just as in grounding you can frame the relationship. You can create your own reality. You don’t have to be rich or famous to be in a position of power. In any male / female relationship there is a natural order. One person is there to provide direction (usually the male) and the other person is there to collect options ( usually the female). In 100% of my dating life I am ALWAYS the provider of direction. Women desire men that take charge and control of situations and at the same time love being able to help with providing options. It is a natural system that has worked wonders in my dating life. We all HAVE what it takes. We just have to d othe work to make it stand out.
Now, in order to create these successful and naturally “realities” inside your relationships you have to start forming actual relationships. You have to stop making excuses and start dating and I have found the easiest, most time efficient and cost effective method for dating is to do it on line.
Dating at the end of the day is a numbers game. You have to meet communicate with a lot of people, to meet some and then have relationship with a few of them. The Don Juan guys have a formula. It goes something like this. You flirt with x number of women and that will result in y number of conversations which will lead to z number of dates which will lead to sleeping with b number of women. You can create a step by step plan but you have to start getting to work and know what those variables are but the first thing to do is make contact and initiate conversations and doing that online will help you begin if your aren’t particularly strong face to face or don’t have a lot of free time to date.
Solution to Myth #2 – Stop making excuses. Follow a step–by-step dating plan, then do the work and stick to it.
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MYTH #3 – WOMEN DON’T WANT SEX AS MUCH AS MEN
If that were true NONE of us would be here. The planet has 6.7 BILLION people as of 2008. That’s a lot of sex going on and I know for an absolute fact that it is the women that are having the babies. Women are programmed in their DNA much differently than men. It is their job to seek out the strongest, most virile, healthy and intuitive men to provide them with healthy offspring. They can’t help it. Its 3 million years of human conditioning to continue to procreate and continue the species. That is good old fashion mother nature at work. So ultimately, women really want to have sex and I think they want it more than men. They think about it more, they spend more time on their looks and fashion than we do. All of the social programming is to look good for potential mates. I don’t care what women say they are doing it for male attention and they know it.
As odd as this may seem your strength, virility, intuition and health aren’t always recognized by women in just your physical characteristics. The reality is they find out more about you and in a much faster way based on one thing above all else and that one thing is your FASHION SENSE. Now I know that sounds absurd at first but stick with me. There are a few very important reasons why this is true.
The first thing you have to do is learn to dress for success with women. You have to get women to be attracted to your outer appearance immediately. You need to learn how to dress for success with women that will make them drool. Your fashion sense should reflect who you are, what you represent and just as importantly what WOMEN find attractive. You attract a lot more bees with Diesel Jeans than with vinegar. When it comes to success with women your outside appearance has to be “ON”. It also and almost more importantly has to reflect the qualities of what women are looking for. There are basically 2 things your have to express in your dress and how you present yourself that are noticeable to women.
Confidence. No other one thing breeds success like confidence. And this one thing will get you laid. Stand with your head held high. Tilt your chin upward almost like you are looking down your nose. Stand up straight but comfortable. Carry yourself well and dictate your personal space. Don’t move out of the way when people approach you.
Keep your hands to your sides and out of your pockets. If you have trouble with that, touch your thumb and middle finger together at your sides OR put your thumbs in your back pockets until you get comfortable with it. Don’t overeat in ANY situation. Stand with one foot out in front and with the other foot at a 45 degree angle. Make a lot of eye contact. Speak with a resonant tone that comes from your diaphragm and it should make your whole body vibrate.
Social Intuition. A well dressed many “gets it”. The world is full of slobs and women know this. Believe me they know this. They have a much keener sense of social intuition because for them it’s inherent. It is literally in their DNA. For us we have to learn it in our environment.
A man that is well dressed shows that he takes care of himself. He represents status. He is healthy and virile. This triggers a key component in a woman’s brain. If a man is virile and healthy what does that mean? It means he will produce healthy offspring and healthy offspring are produced by having sex.
Now I wish it were true that all you have to do is dress great and women will throw themselves at your feet but even the best dressed men will fall into the dreaded “friend” zone.
The biggest reason men fall into the friend zone is they never escalate physically. They keep asking themselves “Does she like me?” If you have ever thought that here is your answer. Is she still there? If the answer is YES than she likes you. Now never ask that question again. Instead focus on being the leader, the provider of direction. Let her get in to a pattern of following you from place to place. This will build in location conditioning and she will naturally fall into the option collector role in the relationship. It is what women do best in my experience. Watch a woman set up a social calendar for her week and you will see exactly how many options she has to deal with, and with all those choices comes the difficulty in choosing which ones to attend. If only she had a provider of direction in her life! See what I’m getting at?
So once she is in a pattern of following you can now advance. You are the provider of direction and can take it to the next level. Just be man enough to provide that direction and just go for it. You will get the responses you are looking for.
I also want you to focus on a new technique. It is called sexual framing. I want you to instill images of your and her engaging in sex. I want you to whisper things in her ear like “If no one was around I would rip off your clothes and have sex with (fuck) you right here”. You’re not going to end up in the friend zone saying things like that.
Solution to Myth #3 – Dress well, provide direction and maintain a sexual frame. Women want sex just as much or even MORE than men do. They just want it with the RIGHT man the RIGHT way.
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MYTH #4 – YOU HAVE TO CONVINCE WOMEN TO LIKE YOU / SLEEP WITH YOU
One of the major differences between men and women is men tend to think logically and women tend to think emotionally. Both have the ability to do both but the tendencies of each are customarily to use one type or the other. It is the condition of the human brain in both sexes. Yes, we all have a left side, a right side, a primal or reptilian brain and a flight or fight mechanism. What I am referring to is each sexes individual ability to reason. To make sense of things.
The one problem I see frequently, and television is one of the worst offenders, is that it is men that are usually “begging” women or seeking their “permission” for intimacy and they do it by trying to convince or use logical reason to make it happen. But you should give me a shot at what’s in your ants because of my job? The car I drive? The things I will buy for you? Most women are completely turned off by this type of approach. It is a pitiful attempt to gain favor by reducing integrity and self-respect. But Hollywood has really big pockets and they know what sells no matter how considerably untrue and ineffective this action may be.
It’s also one of those thing that parents use as they seek to marry off their young daughters. They tend to use logic in making the choice of a male suitor. Things like: he has a good job, he comes from a good family and things of that nature. Where is the romance, huh? How many countless movies are there where the woman falls in love but things don’t go as planned and then she makes the “smart” choice” and decides to marry the logical choice guy and gets to the altar only to be stopped the man she truly loves? We see it all the time. All off this logical posturing goes for not. You can’t convince someone to love you, sleep with you or even to like you for that matter.
So then what is the answer? What can be done about it? Well, for some people nothing can be done about it but for people who know this one secret there is A LOT you can do about it. A long time ago I was told one of the greatest pieces of advice I have ever heard. I was told the only way you can change a woman’s mind or behavior is not by using logic, but by changing her emotion state.
Happiness, jealousy, desire and love are all significant emotions. And as you learn how to change these emotions you can effectively change her attitude about you. Have you ever seen a man do something brave in a movie and then it turns all the women on and now they all want him? Now what happens for that guy instead if he doesn’t do something brave but instead walks up to those women and says, “You should have sex with me because I am brave.” Can you see the obvious and glaring difference in what turns the women on vs. off?
In myth #2 we uncovered the things that women want the most. Some of the things you can practice and some of things you have to show them. You can’t just tell them. The one thing that women want the most is a confident man. This means you cant say you are brave, but you actually have to be brave. Women will agree if a man has to brag about it he doesn’t have it. Money, friends, women a big penis. All these compensations are for the male ego and women could care less 99% of the time.
What they want is someone who takes charge and MAKES THINGS HAPPEN. Now, the best advice I can give to you is: What ever needs to happen, make it happen. Be a doer. Don’t be a talker. When you start showing women you have the things they want instead of saying that you do things will change with them over night. You will start to see their attitude towards you change and it doesn’t take long.
Another great thing you can do to change her emotional state is to make her laugh. The same part of the brain that triggers sex also triggers laughter. That is why women want a man with a sense of humor. This and it demonstrates you have a higher social intuition, which women relate to intellectual strength in the capacity to avoid pain and danger when confronted with a dangerous situation. I’m not saying if a mugger approaches to do a song and dance but that type of individual can avoid being in those situations all together by not making the physically stronger males in to enemies. It is actually considered a form of defense mechanism. Have you ever heard a joke at a funeral about death?
It isn’t because the person is being mean or making light of the situation but rather it is a defense mechanism for hiding the true feelings of grief. It also tries to raise the spirits of everyone around them by introducing humor instead of grief and pain. Women love that in a man not just purely for the entertainment value but for the feelings that it induces in the process. It is a very powerful way to change a woman’s emotional state.
And lastly, tell good emotion stories. Use stories to embed your qualities that women are looking for rather than just tell them outright. Instead of saying, “I volunteer” say, “The last time I saw someone wearing a sweater like that was when I was reading to the kids last Tuesday at the café. The owner who is one of my good friends has been really ill lately so I asked if she wanted me to help out and now she has me wearing a costume and reading stories with a moral every Tuesday and one of the mothers was wearing that exact same sweater.”
You just elicited approximately 3-4 emotions. Did you feel any? And all of it was because someone made a comment about a sweater. Yes, you have to know what emotions to elicit, what things women are looking for and you have to practice how you tell the stories but believe me that is time well spent. You are now demonstrating the values she is looking for and they are embedded in the words in the story. You can effectively brag without bragging.
Also, teach your friends this technique and tell the stories for each other. There is just as much if not more effectiveness when the stories are expressed by others. You can help each other in this fashion. Now if you were sitting with friends and someone else told that story about you, you look even better than if you told it yourself. It is a selfless way of getting your point across.
Solution to Myth #4 – Change a woman’s emotional state by being a man that takes charge, that makes women laugh and learn to tell stories that embed the values you want to express to women in your stories.
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MYTH #5 – YOU HAVE TO BE A NICE GUY TO GET WOMEN
This is a very damaging myth. It is the exact opposite of what we have been saying thus far. This is not one of the things that women are looking for or are attracted to. Where is the take charge part? Where is the value? Being a nice guy just simply makes you a nice guy but it will not help you get women at all.
The biggest problem with being the “nice guy” is it will undoubtedly put you in the friend zone. You are expressing that you ARE NOT any of the things she is looking for in a potential mate but are “sweet” or are “a really good person” and you have now been filed and categorized as someone who will never get in to her pants. Time and time again guys fall into this role and you end up more like a big brother than a suitor.
The easiest way to illustrate this point is to ask you to just look around at all the jerks that get women and the women that fight over these guys. Women are not taking their clothes off because they are polite. They do it because the men they are with aren’t afraid to be exciting and fun. They know how to stimulate the female brain and show women a fun time. A lot of times these guys can also appear to be daring or dangerous. They are usually categorized as bad boy and women are turned on by them and “nice guys” secretly envy them by calling them names like “jerks” or “assholes” because they can’t do what they do but secretly wish they could.
The solution is not to give up being a “nice guy” but rather become a good guy. I want you to be “chivalrous” but not be a “gentlemen”. Lets explain the difference between a “chivalrous good guy” and a “gentleman nice guy”.
The main difference is nice guys or gentlemen don’t turn women on. If you show her all of the things that women find attractive in a man and she will respond. You don’t want to be overly sappy or nice or even too romantic either. Stick to the ideas we have already discussed. You want to maintain your edge and keep her slightly off balance. She should feel like she doesn’t know what you are going to do or say next and that will excite her.
This may sound odd but the easiest way I can describe the difference is a “gentleman nice guy” treats women like he would treat his mother and a “chivalrous good guy” treats women like he would treat his little sister. “Gentlemen nice guy” would never swear, express any real opinion or reference sex in any way with his mother. “Chivalrous good guy” is a lot different. Think of it like this. Would you tease, make fun off, joke with, wrestle around with and have fun with your little sister? Of course you would. Now, would you ever intentionally hurt, cause any harm or let anyone else hurt or cause any harm to your little sister. Of course you wouldn’t. This is what I’m referring to. Don’t be afraid to be direct or assume some familiarity, and discuss sex with women but don’t cause or create harm or be vindictive. You can then have the best of both worlds. You can turn her on, have lots of sex with her and still be a good guy and maintain a stellar reputation inside all of your social circles.
Solution to Myth #5 – Be a “chivalrous good guy” not a “gentleman good guy”
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MYTH #6 – LISTEN TO A WOMAN’S PROBLEMS AND SHE’LL BECOME ATTRACTED TO YOU
This is one I used to do constantly as a teenager. I would listen to all the hot girls in the neighborhood problems about the bad boys that were breaking their hearts. They would open up to me and I really did think that because of that trust they would now want to date someone sensitive and caring like me. Wrong, they would just go back to the heart breakers no matter how much I logically tried to convince them to date me for being a sweet, sensitive nice guy. Sound familiar?
This falls in to the exact same category as the “gentleman nice guy” because at the end of the day it is a back handed ploy to get women to sleep with you than being direct and up front and just going for it. This is a desperation move. It logically makes sense. If a woman opens up emotionally than there will be a connection and she will feel the same way you do an presto. Sex. Not exactly. What really happens is she is getting free “therapy” because you are ‘such a good listener” (friend quality not mate quality) and the more and more you listen the more and more she talks and the farther and farther you fall in to the friend zone.
Even worse is men will compound the problem by meeting them in public to do this and buy her things to make her feel better. The man thinks it’s a date and there is a major gap between what she is thinking and what he is thinking. Talking about the jerks she is dating is not making you a replacement for those jerks. You are just a replacement as a therapist or another friend who is too busy having a social life instead of listening to more of someone else’s problems. Now, you want to hear the worst of it? Guess who she just associated with all of the negative experiences with men and painful emotions? That’s right. The guy who listens to it. Would you go out on a date with your therapist? Could you imagine the conversation? You don’t exactly want to talk about all of your issues in order to get some action tonight.
The best advice to not fall into this pattern is for you to give NO advice at all. You have your own problems and you wont put it on her shoulders, so you would expect the same in return. You are here to be the man who takes charge and you will be making your romantic interest in her known quickly and often. I usually say, “That sucks” when they list their problems but offer NO advice. Listen. Don’t be a jerk about it but get OFF THE SUBJECT as soon as humanly possible.
Solution to Myth #6 – The best advice is to say “that sucks” and give no advice. Make your romantic intentions known quickly and often. Therapists will ALWAYS end up in the friend zone.
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MYTH #7 – ALL THE GOOD WOMEN ARE TAKEN OR ARE IN LOVE WITH JERKS
According to the U.S. Census bureau there are over 305,000,000 people in the United Sates of America at the time of this book. The United States population is 51% women or 155,500,000 total women. There are a total of 105,000,000 women between the ages of 20-44. There are only 59,000,000 married women in the entire country. Even if every single married woman was between the ages of 20-44 (which obviously is not the case) that would leave 46,000,000 women between the ages of 20-44 who are single.
Let me say that again. There are over 46 million women in the United States who are over the age of 20 and under 45 years old that are not married. So what’s with this myth? It comes from people who are lonely and are trying to feel sorry for themselves that spread this idea.
And the jerks they are attracted to are showing them exactly what turns them on. Learn the secrets to what they are doing and start attracting women.
Solution to Myth #7 – There are more available, single women RIGHT NOW then there have ever been in the history of the world. Go find yourself some and show them that you have what they want.
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MYTH # 8 – YOU HAVE TO BE A HANDSOME “LADY KILLER” TO COMPETE FOR A WOMAN’S ATTENTION.
This myth has been created by the flaw that we are all human. What I mean by that is all human beings feel they are fundamentally flawed. There must be something wrong with you! And there is. You are human but your advantage is that we ALL have this flaw. So no one has the advantage.
Your ability to attract women, as we have discussed in pervious sections, has nothing to do with your physical appearance, bank account, and the car in the driveway or any other male compensation you can think of. It is our JOB as humans to keep the species alive. As odd a this may sound it is your RIGHT as a human to have sex with women.
Even the poorest, ugliest, fattest, skinniest, shortest and car-less men are having sex RIGHT NOW! The one thing that guys that get women have that the other ones don’t is the necessary confidence.
Not having confidence comes from fear, a fear of the unknown. It really means you just don’t know what you are doing. So then confidence should be the absence of that fear of the unknown. Basically, you are confident when you know what the hell you are doing and why! Confidence is KNOWING that you are great at something.
Do you think Michael Jordan made his first 100 jump shots? Of course not, he probably missed most of them! But over time with practice and learning from excellent coaches and refining his technique and practicing his game to perfection, he became one of the best basketball players of all time. You may not end up being Michael Jordan but you will certainly become one hell of a “player”, pardon the pun! Your confidence level will sky rocket by the time you dispel all of these myths and you won’t be able to contain it! And that is who you ultimately WANT to become! A highly confident man!
Like anything in life getting good at this requires practice. You may get this down solid in the first try. For others it may take a little more time. Not every woman you meet, regardless of how good she looks, is going to be the right woman for you. And no matter what you look like women will want you if demonstrate confidence and this compounds if they see you out with women doing this. They will want you more because they want what the girl you are with is having. Jealousy is one of those major emotions we discussed in myth #4. The key here is to just keep doing it.
Do you know the prettiest women in the world have the same dating problems you have? They say they cant get dates! They say men are just too scared to talk to them or when they do they don’t do it confidently.
I guess knowing that you should be able to confidently approach women you’re attracted to and you will ultimately be successful. Just imagine if for just 1 DAY you approached every attractive women you saw. Because dating is a numbers game and you know how to confidently “sell” yourself than your success rate should be very high. Even if you approached 10 gorgeous women and 9 said no thanks guess what you have? You have 1 gorgeous women that wants to go out with you! How many times can you wake up and say that?
Solution to Myth #8 – It doesn’t matter what you look like. Confidently approach women you think are attractive and you will be successful. It doesn’t matter how many no’s you get. Only the yes’s count.
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MYTH #9 – WOMEN KNOW WHAT THEY WANT
I have been asking the question, “Do men know what women want?” to women for years and I get the same response frequently. They say “No they don’t, and that is because women don’t know what they want!” One thing I know for sure is what women say they want and what turns them on are often not the same.
They also don’t want to have to tell you how to get them, how you should act or what you should be doing in order to get them. Where is the fun in that? Women love the chase. If you have to ask them what they want then you have already squashed the one thing they are really looking for. If you try and ask for the short cut to her heart she will walk away. The more independent you are and the more you keep them on their toes the better your chances.
In fact, when women are asked about the things they like in a man, and then meet a man they are attracted to that is totally different than her original answers, then she will CHANGE her to reflect the man they are now attracted to. If she is no longer with that man then her answers will go back to the original list. So what does this mean? It means that once in the act of being swept off her feet, the things she thought were wants completely disappear in the actual act of being swept off her feet. This is a very important thing to know about women.
Ask a women if she wants someone that is a dangerous, who is a trouble maker, doesn’t call her back, treats her poorly and acts as if he doesn’t give a damn and she’ll say no way! Now, have her date someone confident that acts just like that and I’ll show you a woman that will be head over heels and fawning all over him AND then go looking for a friend to complain to about how he treats her. Someone who is a good listener in the friend zone. Sound familiar?
One last important thing I can tell you is women cant tell you what they want in a man, they can only tell you what they think they want in a man. You have to demonstrate those thing we know for sure are attractive to women. Don’t worry about “Does she like me?” Instead, start DOING the things that will make her like you. Attraction is NOT a choice. You can make it happen.
Solution to Myth #9 – Don’t ASK women what they want, BE what they want.
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MYTH #10 – GETTING WOMEN IS TOO HARD AND IT TAKES UP TOO MUCH TIME
Like anything you do in life you have to be efficient and smart to be successful. Being a successful with women is no different but there are some things you can do to maximize your efforts. First of all, nothing you are doing to attract women is really al that hard. All you are really doing is talking and showing body language. You aren’t lifting 1,000 lbs. over your head and you don’t need 4 PhD’s. Venue scouting is a good technique. It just simply means start talking to the women that go in to the places you go in to on a daily basis. Starbucks, your office, the gym and all the places you go out to eat. Just simply say, “Hi, I’m _____” and start a conversation. You know how to frame yourself and hold yourself up confidently. Don’t linger around her for too long. Say, “I really enjoyed meeting you but I have to get running.” Open up your telephone and go to new contacts and then hand it to her. She will know that you want her phone number and she will key it in. Your work is done. Takes about 5 minutes. Doesn’t sound all that time consuming.
Join groups or organizations that you are interested in and begin talking to women who are passionate about the same things you are. Go on a regular basis. If you aren’t the type to go out or you just really like to stay home then you need to develop some techniques for meeting and approaching women on line.
After you learn how to venue scout and get good online then it comes down to social maintenance. Keeping everyone and everything organized with all your new female companionship will take some time. Oh well, now that you are getting women you are going to complain about it? Deal with it! It is one of those thing s we call “a great problem to have.”
Solution to Myth #10 – Learn really good venue scouting and on line techniques to make meeting and maintaining a social calendar easy and efficient.
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The oldest trick in the book is you have to lie to girls to get action. Like Rodney Dangerfield said in the movie Back to School, “Why did you lie to me Jason? You don’t lie to me…you lie to girls!”. Although that may work in some small instances it is a recipe for disaster. Here’s why. Let’s say you meet a girl and you really like her. And let’s even say you’ve been to one of those three thousand dollar seduction courses and they teach you these canned lines called “heart melters” that are fictitious stories to get women to like you.
One example of the stories they tell you to tell to girls is you sold your toys when you were 7 years old to help pay the electric bill. Now, let’s say you tell that story to a woman and then 3 months later the women you are dating finds out that it isn’t true. You are now completely out of congruence with what she thought you were and you become something else. You can NEVER regain the trust that you had. You never really built in the first place because you based part of your personality and your past on a lie. It is almost impossible to recover from. The number one deal breaker in relationships for 67% of women polled is lying. It ranked higher than cheating!
So what then? Tell the truth? Most guys are intimidated or feel inadequate when it comes to their lives and careers so they either get really shy about it, and don’t tell anyone, or they just plain lie about it. I have a new suggestion that is GUARANTEED to get women attracted to you. It is a framing technique called grounding. Grounding is a technique that allows any question to be answered TRUTHFULLY with 3 main components.
Grounding components are:
1. Wanted (something/to) since being a child
2. I have overcome obstacles to attain
3. Have achieved the goal OR are in process of achieving the goal.
We get asked the question “what do you do for a living” all the time. Most of us just blurt out the answer like “I’m a convenient store clerk” or lie about it in an attempt to get women like “I’m a famous plastic surgeon” or something ridiculous like that. If we ground it we don’t have to lie and the answer, no matter what you do for a living will sound FANTASTIC!
Let’s say you are an architect and someone asks you, “What do you do for a living?”
The common response is, “I’m an architect.”
But if you apply the grounding technique you get something that looks more like this:
“Even since I was a small child I had always loved to draw and be creative so I decided to grow my talents and become an architect. It has been challenging and exciting, especially with some of the changes that have been created to improve the environment and even though I work for a successful company my eventual goal is to start my own firm…”
See the glaring difference. Let’s even take the guy above that works in a convenient store. Let’s see if we can make him look like a success.
“Ever since I was a small child I wanted to be an independent business owner so I am working directly under a self employed business owner by running one of his franchise units. It’s challenging because you have to have a lot of multi tasking and customer services skills but I really enjoy it and my eventual goal is to own my own company.”
Not bad for right of the top of my head. Do you see the power of grounding? Can you imagine if we really gave it some thought? If you need to lie to get girls that what kind of a MAN are you? Really?
The real beauty of the grounding technique is it gives women a strong emotional reaction and creates an emotional attachment to YOUR answers. It is very powerful.
Solution to Myth #1 – Don’t Lie. Just get really, really good at telling the truth using framing and grounding techniques.
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MYTH #2 – YOU HAVE TO BE RICH TO GET WOMEN
I truly believe this is the biggest myth that exists in dating and I can tell you first hand that the best lady killer I know are either regular guys with regular jobs or are broke. The real issue here is inadequacy. Most me n fall victim to the notion that if they are not rich they wont adequately be able to do the things that women want. They also then believe they don’t have what it takes to satisfy them emotionally or physically. This is when you really start to hear the excuses men come up with. It’s society’s fault, it’s the economy’s fault, it’s MTV’s fault but it’s NEVER the man in the mirror’s fault.
Oddly enough, the things that women WANT THE MOST don’t cost a thing! Being chivalrous, being confident, having a sense of humor, being a leader of providing direction, making them FEEL that they are a priority, being passionate and being a protector don’t cost a dime! These are the top 7 things women wanted when polled.
There are single women everywhere just looking for a regular guy with regular wants and needs and a regular job. They don’t necessarily want all that glamour and glitz but they certainly aren’t going to just start lining up for you. You have to work at it. You have to want to do it and just as in grounding you can frame the relationship. You can create your own reality. You don’t have to be rich or famous to be in a position of power. In any male / female relationship there is a natural order. One person is there to provide direction (usually the male) and the other person is there to collect options ( usually the female). In 100% of my dating life I am ALWAYS the provider of direction. Women desire men that take charge and control of situations and at the same time love being able to help with providing options. It is a natural system that has worked wonders in my dating life. We all HAVE what it takes. We just have to d othe work to make it stand out.
Now, in order to create these successful and naturally “realities” inside your relationships you have to start forming actual relationships. You have to stop making excuses and start dating and I have found the easiest, most time efficient and cost effective method for dating is to do it on line.
Dating at the end of the day is a numbers game. You have to meet communicate with a lot of people, to meet some and then have relationship with a few of them. The Don Juan guys have a formula. It goes something like this. You flirt with x number of women and that will result in y number of conversations which will lead to z number of dates which will lead to sleeping with b number of women. You can create a step by step plan but you have to start getting to work and know what those variables are but the first thing to do is make contact and initiate conversations and doing that online will help you begin if your aren’t particularly strong face to face or don’t have a lot of free time to date.
Solution to Myth #2 – Stop making excuses. Follow a step–by-step dating plan, then do the work and stick to it.
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MYTH #3 – WOMEN DON’T WANT SEX AS MUCH AS MEN
If that were true NONE of us would be here. The planet has 6.7 BILLION people as of 2008. That’s a lot of sex going on and I know for an absolute fact that it is the women that are having the babies. Women are programmed in their DNA much differently than men. It is their job to seek out the strongest, most virile, healthy and intuitive men to provide them with healthy offspring. They can’t help it. Its 3 million years of human conditioning to continue to procreate and continue the species. That is good old fashion mother nature at work. So ultimately, women really want to have sex and I think they want it more than men. They think about it more, they spend more time on their looks and fashion than we do. All of the social programming is to look good for potential mates. I don’t care what women say they are doing it for male attention and they know it.
As odd as this may seem your strength, virility, intuition and health aren’t always recognized by women in just your physical characteristics. The reality is they find out more about you and in a much faster way based on one thing above all else and that one thing is your FASHION SENSE. Now I know that sounds absurd at first but stick with me. There are a few very important reasons why this is true.
The first thing you have to do is learn to dress for success with women. You have to get women to be attracted to your outer appearance immediately. You need to learn how to dress for success with women that will make them drool. Your fashion sense should reflect who you are, what you represent and just as importantly what WOMEN find attractive. You attract a lot more bees with Diesel Jeans than with vinegar. When it comes to success with women your outside appearance has to be “ON”. It also and almost more importantly has to reflect the qualities of what women are looking for. There are basically 2 things your have to express in your dress and how you present yourself that are noticeable to women.
Confidence. No other one thing breeds success like confidence. And this one thing will get you laid. Stand with your head held high. Tilt your chin upward almost like you are looking down your nose. Stand up straight but comfortable. Carry yourself well and dictate your personal space. Don’t move out of the way when people approach you.
Keep your hands to your sides and out of your pockets. If you have trouble with that, touch your thumb and middle finger together at your sides OR put your thumbs in your back pockets until you get comfortable with it. Don’t overeat in ANY situation. Stand with one foot out in front and with the other foot at a 45 degree angle. Make a lot of eye contact. Speak with a resonant tone that comes from your diaphragm and it should make your whole body vibrate.
Social Intuition. A well dressed many “gets it”. The world is full of slobs and women know this. Believe me they know this. They have a much keener sense of social intuition because for them it’s inherent. It is literally in their DNA. For us we have to learn it in our environment.
A man that is well dressed shows that he takes care of himself. He represents status. He is healthy and virile. This triggers a key component in a woman’s brain. If a man is virile and healthy what does that mean? It means he will produce healthy offspring and healthy offspring are produced by having sex.
Now I wish it were true that all you have to do is dress great and women will throw themselves at your feet but even the best dressed men will fall into the dreaded “friend” zone.
The biggest reason men fall into the friend zone is they never escalate physically. They keep asking themselves “Does she like me?” If you have ever thought that here is your answer. Is she still there? If the answer is YES than she likes you. Now never ask that question again. Instead focus on being the leader, the provider of direction. Let her get in to a pattern of following you from place to place. This will build in location conditioning and she will naturally fall into the option collector role in the relationship. It is what women do best in my experience. Watch a woman set up a social calendar for her week and you will see exactly how many options she has to deal with, and with all those choices comes the difficulty in choosing which ones to attend. If only she had a provider of direction in her life! See what I’m getting at?
So once she is in a pattern of following you can now advance. You are the provider of direction and can take it to the next level. Just be man enough to provide that direction and just go for it. You will get the responses you are looking for.
I also want you to focus on a new technique. It is called sexual framing. I want you to instill images of your and her engaging in sex. I want you to whisper things in her ear like “If no one was around I would rip off your clothes and have sex with (fuck) you right here”. You’re not going to end up in the friend zone saying things like that.
Solution to Myth #3 – Dress well, provide direction and maintain a sexual frame. Women want sex just as much or even MORE than men do. They just want it with the RIGHT man the RIGHT way.
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MYTH #4 – YOU HAVE TO CONVINCE WOMEN TO LIKE YOU / SLEEP WITH YOU
One of the major differences between men and women is men tend to think logically and women tend to think emotionally. Both have the ability to do both but the tendencies of each are customarily to use one type or the other. It is the condition of the human brain in both sexes. Yes, we all have a left side, a right side, a primal or reptilian brain and a flight or fight mechanism. What I am referring to is each sexes individual ability to reason. To make sense of things.
The one problem I see frequently, and television is one of the worst offenders, is that it is men that are usually “begging” women or seeking their “permission” for intimacy and they do it by trying to convince or use logical reason to make it happen. But you should give me a shot at what’s in your ants because of my job? The car I drive? The things I will buy for you? Most women are completely turned off by this type of approach. It is a pitiful attempt to gain favor by reducing integrity and self-respect. But Hollywood has really big pockets and they know what sells no matter how considerably untrue and ineffective this action may be.
It’s also one of those thing that parents use as they seek to marry off their young daughters. They tend to use logic in making the choice of a male suitor. Things like: he has a good job, he comes from a good family and things of that nature. Where is the romance, huh? How many countless movies are there where the woman falls in love but things don’t go as planned and then she makes the “smart” choice” and decides to marry the logical choice guy and gets to the altar only to be stopped the man she truly loves? We see it all the time. All off this logical posturing goes for not. You can’t convince someone to love you, sleep with you or even to like you for that matter.
So then what is the answer? What can be done about it? Well, for some people nothing can be done about it but for people who know this one secret there is A LOT you can do about it. A long time ago I was told one of the greatest pieces of advice I have ever heard. I was told the only way you can change a woman’s mind or behavior is not by using logic, but by changing her emotion state.
Happiness, jealousy, desire and love are all significant emotions. And as you learn how to change these emotions you can effectively change her attitude about you. Have you ever seen a man do something brave in a movie and then it turns all the women on and now they all want him? Now what happens for that guy instead if he doesn’t do something brave but instead walks up to those women and says, “You should have sex with me because I am brave.” Can you see the obvious and glaring difference in what turns the women on vs. off?
In myth #2 we uncovered the things that women want the most. Some of the things you can practice and some of things you have to show them. You can’t just tell them. The one thing that women want the most is a confident man. This means you cant say you are brave, but you actually have to be brave. Women will agree if a man has to brag about it he doesn’t have it. Money, friends, women a big penis. All these compensations are for the male ego and women could care less 99% of the time.
What they want is someone who takes charge and MAKES THINGS HAPPEN. Now, the best advice I can give to you is: What ever needs to happen, make it happen. Be a doer. Don’t be a talker. When you start showing women you have the things they want instead of saying that you do things will change with them over night. You will start to see their attitude towards you change and it doesn’t take long.
Another great thing you can do to change her emotional state is to make her laugh. The same part of the brain that triggers sex also triggers laughter. That is why women want a man with a sense of humor. This and it demonstrates you have a higher social intuition, which women relate to intellectual strength in the capacity to avoid pain and danger when confronted with a dangerous situation. I’m not saying if a mugger approaches to do a song and dance but that type of individual can avoid being in those situations all together by not making the physically stronger males in to enemies. It is actually considered a form of defense mechanism. Have you ever heard a joke at a funeral about death?
It isn’t because the person is being mean or making light of the situation but rather it is a defense mechanism for hiding the true feelings of grief. It also tries to raise the spirits of everyone around them by introducing humor instead of grief and pain. Women love that in a man not just purely for the entertainment value but for the feelings that it induces in the process. It is a very powerful way to change a woman’s emotional state.
And lastly, tell good emotion stories. Use stories to embed your qualities that women are looking for rather than just tell them outright. Instead of saying, “I volunteer” say, “The last time I saw someone wearing a sweater like that was when I was reading to the kids last Tuesday at the café. The owner who is one of my good friends has been really ill lately so I asked if she wanted me to help out and now she has me wearing a costume and reading stories with a moral every Tuesday and one of the mothers was wearing that exact same sweater.”
You just elicited approximately 3-4 emotions. Did you feel any? And all of it was because someone made a comment about a sweater. Yes, you have to know what emotions to elicit, what things women are looking for and you have to practice how you tell the stories but believe me that is time well spent. You are now demonstrating the values she is looking for and they are embedded in the words in the story. You can effectively brag without bragging.
Also, teach your friends this technique and tell the stories for each other. There is just as much if not more effectiveness when the stories are expressed by others. You can help each other in this fashion. Now if you were sitting with friends and someone else told that story about you, you look even better than if you told it yourself. It is a selfless way of getting your point across.
Solution to Myth #4 – Change a woman’s emotional state by being a man that takes charge, that makes women laugh and learn to tell stories that embed the values you want to express to women in your stories.
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MYTH #5 – YOU HAVE TO BE A NICE GUY TO GET WOMEN
This is a very damaging myth. It is the exact opposite of what we have been saying thus far. This is not one of the things that women are looking for or are attracted to. Where is the take charge part? Where is the value? Being a nice guy just simply makes you a nice guy but it will not help you get women at all.
The biggest problem with being the “nice guy” is it will undoubtedly put you in the friend zone. You are expressing that you ARE NOT any of the things she is looking for in a potential mate but are “sweet” or are “a really good person” and you have now been filed and categorized as someone who will never get in to her pants. Time and time again guys fall into this role and you end up more like a big brother than a suitor.
The easiest way to illustrate this point is to ask you to just look around at all the jerks that get women and the women that fight over these guys. Women are not taking their clothes off because they are polite. They do it because the men they are with aren’t afraid to be exciting and fun. They know how to stimulate the female brain and show women a fun time. A lot of times these guys can also appear to be daring or dangerous. They are usually categorized as bad boy and women are turned on by them and “nice guys” secretly envy them by calling them names like “jerks” or “assholes” because they can’t do what they do but secretly wish they could.
The solution is not to give up being a “nice guy” but rather become a good guy. I want you to be “chivalrous” but not be a “gentlemen”. Lets explain the difference between a “chivalrous good guy” and a “gentleman nice guy”.
The main difference is nice guys or gentlemen don’t turn women on. If you show her all of the things that women find attractive in a man and she will respond. You don’t want to be overly sappy or nice or even too romantic either. Stick to the ideas we have already discussed. You want to maintain your edge and keep her slightly off balance. She should feel like she doesn’t know what you are going to do or say next and that will excite her.
This may sound odd but the easiest way I can describe the difference is a “gentleman nice guy” treats women like he would treat his mother and a “chivalrous good guy” treats women like he would treat his little sister. “Gentlemen nice guy” would never swear, express any real opinion or reference sex in any way with his mother. “Chivalrous good guy” is a lot different. Think of it like this. Would you tease, make fun off, joke with, wrestle around with and have fun with your little sister? Of course you would. Now, would you ever intentionally hurt, cause any harm or let anyone else hurt or cause any harm to your little sister. Of course you wouldn’t. This is what I’m referring to. Don’t be afraid to be direct or assume some familiarity, and discuss sex with women but don’t cause or create harm or be vindictive. You can then have the best of both worlds. You can turn her on, have lots of sex with her and still be a good guy and maintain a stellar reputation inside all of your social circles.
Solution to Myth #5 – Be a “chivalrous good guy” not a “gentleman good guy”
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MYTH #6 – LISTEN TO A WOMAN’S PROBLEMS AND SHE’LL BECOME ATTRACTED TO YOU
This is one I used to do constantly as a teenager. I would listen to all the hot girls in the neighborhood problems about the bad boys that were breaking their hearts. They would open up to me and I really did think that because of that trust they would now want to date someone sensitive and caring like me. Wrong, they would just go back to the heart breakers no matter how much I logically tried to convince them to date me for being a sweet, sensitive nice guy. Sound familiar?
This falls in to the exact same category as the “gentleman nice guy” because at the end of the day it is a back handed ploy to get women to sleep with you than being direct and up front and just going for it. This is a desperation move. It logically makes sense. If a woman opens up emotionally than there will be a connection and she will feel the same way you do an presto. Sex. Not exactly. What really happens is she is getting free “therapy” because you are ‘such a good listener” (friend quality not mate quality) and the more and more you listen the more and more she talks and the farther and farther you fall in to the friend zone.
Even worse is men will compound the problem by meeting them in public to do this and buy her things to make her feel better. The man thinks it’s a date and there is a major gap between what she is thinking and what he is thinking. Talking about the jerks she is dating is not making you a replacement for those jerks. You are just a replacement as a therapist or another friend who is too busy having a social life instead of listening to more of someone else’s problems. Now, you want to hear the worst of it? Guess who she just associated with all of the negative experiences with men and painful emotions? That’s right. The guy who listens to it. Would you go out on a date with your therapist? Could you imagine the conversation? You don’t exactly want to talk about all of your issues in order to get some action tonight.
The best advice to not fall into this pattern is for you to give NO advice at all. You have your own problems and you wont put it on her shoulders, so you would expect the same in return. You are here to be the man who takes charge and you will be making your romantic interest in her known quickly and often. I usually say, “That sucks” when they list their problems but offer NO advice. Listen. Don’t be a jerk about it but get OFF THE SUBJECT as soon as humanly possible.
Solution to Myth #6 – The best advice is to say “that sucks” and give no advice. Make your romantic intentions known quickly and often. Therapists will ALWAYS end up in the friend zone.
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MYTH #7 – ALL THE GOOD WOMEN ARE TAKEN OR ARE IN LOVE WITH JERKS
According to the U.S. Census bureau there are over 305,000,000 people in the United Sates of America at the time of this book. The United States population is 51% women or 155,500,000 total women. There are a total of 105,000,000 women between the ages of 20-44. There are only 59,000,000 married women in the entire country. Even if every single married woman was between the ages of 20-44 (which obviously is not the case) that would leave 46,000,000 women between the ages of 20-44 who are single.
Let me say that again. There are over 46 million women in the United States who are over the age of 20 and under 45 years old that are not married. So what’s with this myth? It comes from people who are lonely and are trying to feel sorry for themselves that spread this idea.
And the jerks they are attracted to are showing them exactly what turns them on. Learn the secrets to what they are doing and start attracting women.
Solution to Myth #7 – There are more available, single women RIGHT NOW then there have ever been in the history of the world. Go find yourself some and show them that you have what they want.
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MYTH # 8 – YOU HAVE TO BE A HANDSOME “LADY KILLER” TO COMPETE FOR A WOMAN’S ATTENTION.
This myth has been created by the flaw that we are all human. What I mean by that is all human beings feel they are fundamentally flawed. There must be something wrong with you! And there is. You are human but your advantage is that we ALL have this flaw. So no one has the advantage.
Your ability to attract women, as we have discussed in pervious sections, has nothing to do with your physical appearance, bank account, and the car in the driveway or any other male compensation you can think of. It is our JOB as humans to keep the species alive. As odd a this may sound it is your RIGHT as a human to have sex with women.
Even the poorest, ugliest, fattest, skinniest, shortest and car-less men are having sex RIGHT NOW! The one thing that guys that get women have that the other ones don’t is the necessary confidence.
Not having confidence comes from fear, a fear of the unknown. It really means you just don’t know what you are doing. So then confidence should be the absence of that fear of the unknown. Basically, you are confident when you know what the hell you are doing and why! Confidence is KNOWING that you are great at something.
Do you think Michael Jordan made his first 100 jump shots? Of course not, he probably missed most of them! But over time with practice and learning from excellent coaches and refining his technique and practicing his game to perfection, he became one of the best basketball players of all time. You may not end up being Michael Jordan but you will certainly become one hell of a “player”, pardon the pun! Your confidence level will sky rocket by the time you dispel all of these myths and you won’t be able to contain it! And that is who you ultimately WANT to become! A highly confident man!
Like anything in life getting good at this requires practice. You may get this down solid in the first try. For others it may take a little more time. Not every woman you meet, regardless of how good she looks, is going to be the right woman for you. And no matter what you look like women will want you if demonstrate confidence and this compounds if they see you out with women doing this. They will want you more because they want what the girl you are with is having. Jealousy is one of those major emotions we discussed in myth #4. The key here is to just keep doing it.
Do you know the prettiest women in the world have the same dating problems you have? They say they cant get dates! They say men are just too scared to talk to them or when they do they don’t do it confidently.
I guess knowing that you should be able to confidently approach women you’re attracted to and you will ultimately be successful. Just imagine if for just 1 DAY you approached every attractive women you saw. Because dating is a numbers game and you know how to confidently “sell” yourself than your success rate should be very high. Even if you approached 10 gorgeous women and 9 said no thanks guess what you have? You have 1 gorgeous women that wants to go out with you! How many times can you wake up and say that?
Solution to Myth #8 – It doesn’t matter what you look like. Confidently approach women you think are attractive and you will be successful. It doesn’t matter how many no’s you get. Only the yes’s count.
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MYTH #9 – WOMEN KNOW WHAT THEY WANT
I have been asking the question, “Do men know what women want?” to women for years and I get the same response frequently. They say “No they don’t, and that is because women don’t know what they want!” One thing I know for sure is what women say they want and what turns them on are often not the same.
They also don’t want to have to tell you how to get them, how you should act or what you should be doing in order to get them. Where is the fun in that? Women love the chase. If you have to ask them what they want then you have already squashed the one thing they are really looking for. If you try and ask for the short cut to her heart she will walk away. The more independent you are and the more you keep them on their toes the better your chances.
In fact, when women are asked about the things they like in a man, and then meet a man they are attracted to that is totally different than her original answers, then she will CHANGE her to reflect the man they are now attracted to. If she is no longer with that man then her answers will go back to the original list. So what does this mean? It means that once in the act of being swept off her feet, the things she thought were wants completely disappear in the actual act of being swept off her feet. This is a very important thing to know about women.
Ask a women if she wants someone that is a dangerous, who is a trouble maker, doesn’t call her back, treats her poorly and acts as if he doesn’t give a damn and she’ll say no way! Now, have her date someone confident that acts just like that and I’ll show you a woman that will be head over heels and fawning all over him AND then go looking for a friend to complain to about how he treats her. Someone who is a good listener in the friend zone. Sound familiar?
One last important thing I can tell you is women cant tell you what they want in a man, they can only tell you what they think they want in a man. You have to demonstrate those thing we know for sure are attractive to women. Don’t worry about “Does she like me?” Instead, start DOING the things that will make her like you. Attraction is NOT a choice. You can make it happen.
Solution to Myth #9 – Don’t ASK women what they want, BE what they want.
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MYTH #10 – GETTING WOMEN IS TOO HARD AND IT TAKES UP TOO MUCH TIME
Like anything you do in life you have to be efficient and smart to be successful. Being a successful with women is no different but there are some things you can do to maximize your efforts. First of all, nothing you are doing to attract women is really al that hard. All you are really doing is talking and showing body language. You aren’t lifting 1,000 lbs. over your head and you don’t need 4 PhD’s. Venue scouting is a good technique. It just simply means start talking to the women that go in to the places you go in to on a daily basis. Starbucks, your office, the gym and all the places you go out to eat. Just simply say, “Hi, I’m _____” and start a conversation. You know how to frame yourself and hold yourself up confidently. Don’t linger around her for too long. Say, “I really enjoyed meeting you but I have to get running.” Open up your telephone and go to new contacts and then hand it to her. She will know that you want her phone number and she will key it in. Your work is done. Takes about 5 minutes. Doesn’t sound all that time consuming.
Join groups or organizations that you are interested in and begin talking to women who are passionate about the same things you are. Go on a regular basis. If you aren’t the type to go out or you just really like to stay home then you need to develop some techniques for meeting and approaching women on line.
After you learn how to venue scout and get good online then it comes down to social maintenance. Keeping everyone and everything organized with all your new female companionship will take some time. Oh well, now that you are getting women you are going to complain about it? Deal with it! It is one of those thing s we call “a great problem to have.”
Solution to Myth #10 – Learn really good venue scouting and on line techniques to make meeting and maintaining a social calendar easy and efficient.
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